Life is full of plenty of ups and downs and huge struggles. One of the major struggles in your life may be how to get your girl back after you screwed up and acted too much like a jerk.

There are several ways you could have been a jerk.  Maybe you cheated on her once too often, or even once.  Maybe you were neglectful throughout the entire relationship or you were too selfish.  You may have done nothing in particular but were just unlucky in love. Whatever you did to screw it up can be fixed but you will have to look at your behavior and possibly make some corrections, if you want your girl back.

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There is something so basic that you can start with that you will most likely feel it is counter intuitive.  You need to give her space and leave her alone.  It may be hard to do but she might just realize that she wants you back and she may be the one to call you up to re-establish the relationship.  You should really take this procedure seriously as it works in many cases.  On the opposite side, don’t assume it will work 100 percent of the time and put all of your stock in it. Try to take the attitude that it may or may not work.

Even if you can’t fathom taking this approach you are going to need to take some time off to not only think of what to do next but to settle down enough that you can think better.  In turn this will give her time off as well to put the situation in perspective and to contemplate the good times she had with you.

Take this much needed break to do things with friends or close relatives.  Don’t try to call up your girl too much nor bother her with a bunch of text messages or emails.  Many guys try to be sneaking and make plans to accidently bump into the ex girlfriend at places they know she will be.  This stands a good chance of backfiring and causing her to become annoyed.  If that happens you may make it much harder to get your girl back.

In being a jerk you may have neglected your girl’s need to have her birthday recognized or her desire to be taken out on the town on occasion. Women love to be made the center of attention at times.  You can’t neglect this and expect a relationship to be good or to last.  Your girl wants to know that you like to be with her for more than the physical part of a relationship.  There is little doubt that she will be looking for new guys if you neglect her wants.  Yes, men tend to want women for physical pleasure more than women want men for that, so you need to keep that in mind as hard as that is sometimes.

If you feel you didn’t do much wrong or all that you did was hang around too much with your friends than you will have to figure out what your ex girlfriend wanted.  You can’t completely ignore her wishes if you expect to get her back and keep her. Make sure you actually want a girlfriend and then take the initiative to clean up your act, inside and out.  Act like she is a big part of your life.  Girlfriends love that.

To get the girl back you need to demonstrate that you are not the same jerk and you are prepared to take her needs into consideration and make her feel wanted.  Don’t lie to her just to get her back either.  If you do that you will most likely break up again and things will be much worse the second or third time.  Eventually you may lose her forever if you are not careful.

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