Since you now find that you are without the person you are in love with due to a recent or not so recent break up, you may consider looking for break up help or for information on how to get your ex back.  In either case you will need help moving in one of those directions.

If you have concluded that you are going to try to move on then the amount or type of help you will need to get over the break up will depend on how bad the break up was.  If it was an ugly ending and it took its toll on you emotionally than you are going to need more time getting over it and recovering from the relationship.

At this point it is important to concentrate on taking care of your mental and physical health.  Don’t look back on the decisions you made in the relationship and criticize your self for them too much.  You made the best decisions you could make at the time given what was happening.  Allow yourself to make mistakes just as other humans do.  You are only human too.  If you are in emotional turmoil because the break up went badly and you feel you are still in love with your ex than it is even more critical to take care of yourself first.

The break up help you need right now is the kind that shows you how to look after yourself.  Don’t be concerned with your ex right now, as they are not your responsibility anymore, even though you are still in love with him or her.

Sometimes you may need professional help if your turmoil from the break up is overly intense.  It is better to regain your self-confidence and self-esteem as quickly as possible than it is to wait it out too long. If talking to a professional will help than you should do it.

Getting Your Ex Back

If the kind of break up help you seek is the kind that shows how to get your ex back than you still need to do some of the things talked about above, but you also have to begin on a plan to make up with your ex.

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The beginning of this process is the same.  Take care of yourself first and regain your own self-confidence.  Talk to a professional if necessary.  Don’t contact your ex until your self-esteem comes back and you have recovered from the break up enough to think straight.

Once all of that is accomplished you can make a plan to get back together with your ex on a friendly date of sorts.  Meet at a neutral place that doesn’t have memories if possible.  You need to meet him or her in a calm manner almost more as a friend would.  Explain to them that you have been thinking about what went wrong and would like to try the relationship again.  Listen to what they have to say back.  You need to be a good listener so they are aware that you are serious. You don’t have to agree with them but your goal is to simply listen well.  Keep the conversation non-argumentative.

You later should end the date in a pleasant amicable manner and wait for them to call you back.  Doing this may or may not work.  Nothing is 100% guaranteed to work. But at least you know you gave it the best shot and did the right thing.

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