*WARNING.  This is an article for mature audiences of 18 or older.  It is in no way pornographic but may contain sexually explicit material.  Please read no further if you may be offended.

Many of the men I have helped have revealed a common problem.  It comes up time and time again in our discussions.  It seems there is a serious issue that runs through many relationship problems.  Despite what a female wants to believe about relationships it seems that men indeed like sex.  Not only sex, but good sex.

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Sometimes sexuality is a hidden problem in relationships or marriages.  Many people are simply too shy to talk about it.  As well, there may be one of you who refuse to believe that good sex is that important.  Don’t make that mistake.

We know that men and women have different wants and desires and they sometimes, if not a majority of the time, want different things from their marriage or relationship.  This is just a fact of human nature.  For many women the dream is to have a decent husband who makes good money and financially provides for her and the kids. They may also want a loveable husband who is affectionate, holds hands and listens to them well.  A fair majority of women want a handy-man type too, one who can fix the car and house.   For men, they may want an attractive wife, who is a good wife and mother, has common sense, is fun to be around, can cook and keeps her figure.  You can see the differences.  Women tend to want more mental and practical skills.  Men may want some of that but they usually like the physical female also. Of course there may be exceptions.  This is not a hard fast rule.

One thing that is missing from the paragraph above is the word “sex.”  How do the opposite sexes feel about this part of a relationship?  Keep in mind that we are talking about the majority of men I have helped. There will always be exceptions.  Men want good sex and it is disappointing to them when they don’t get it from their partner.  Women are not as apt to feel this way.

A woman doesn’t have to be the best looking creature around, to be good in bed.  Being “good in the sack” can make up for many physical flaws.  But, ladies, you must be willing to be adventurous.  Men like that.  It does help if you do your best to stay in shape and make yourself as pretty as you can be, as often as you can.  Simply put, running around in PJ’s or sweats, with no makeup the majority of the day is not that physically attractive to most men.  It does take effort to keep your man from thinking he may physically want other women he meets at the office or grocery store.  Usually when a woman realizes this, her man has already had an affair and so it may be too late.

So what kinds of things can you do to keep your man happier?  Obviously if you always have sex in the missionary position (man on top), in bed, it is going to get boring pretty quickly into a marriage or relationship.  Even if you don’t feel good in other positions at least try to do “the act” in different parts of the house.  Try it in different locations like the forest, beach, your deck or back yard.  If you can, it is best to try different positions.  We won’t go into them here as you can read all about them in books, or on the internet.  Many men are very turned on by the woman on top, doggie style, or in a sideways position.  Try doing it in the shower or a bathtub (if yours is big enough).  Basically, try different things.  You’ll only be shy about it for a little while and then it will become a regular part of your new exciting physical relationship.

Men also greatly enjoy oral sex.  If you have never done it before, just start slowly and do it as long as you can.  Eventually you will get better at it and be able to go longer.  It is even more enticing for men if you can take as much of him into you as possible and swallow.  I am not trying to be crude but revealing the facts.  Men love this type of “sex”, sometimes more than intercourse.  Some men have revealed to me that they feel completely sexually unsatisfied if their spouse or girlfriend won’t give oral sex regularly.   On the flip side, many men like giving oral sex to the lady.  Don’t be shy about asking for it.  Most women have far better orgasms when stimulated orally.  Let yourself go, you are not doing anything wrong.  It is with your partner.

There are several other things you can do to better the chances of keeping your man.  You can do such things as helping him masturbate, perhaps in the shower, or elsewhere.  You can use your fingers on yourself while he has sex with you (I’ll leave it to your imagination).  Of course you can also introduce sex toys into the act.  Sometimes local adult stores will have ladies night so you can explore with no men present.  Don’t be shy. If you need to, buy an adult film just for ideas.

Conclusion

The import point is this.  Many men sometimes feel they are not getting good sex from their partner or spouse.  In many cases this may lead to an unsatisfactory relationship, at least in his mind, an affair or a breakup.  With a little effort you can make yourself a more sexual creature to him, and get him excited about the weekend!  This works very well in taking his mind off of other women and lets him know you are willing to keep him physically happy.  Don’t overlook the sexual part of your relationship if you want a better chance of keeping your man.

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